Have you ever been in a conversation where someone gives you feedback and, before you even realize what’s happening, your walls go up? Your shoulders tighten. Your tone shifts. Your brain starts building a case like a courtroom attorney. Suddenly, you’re not listening anymore — you’re defending. We’ve all been there. Being defensive is one of the most human reactions in the world. It’s instinct. It’s protection. It’s the emotional equivalent of crossing your arms and saying, “I’m fine,” when you’re absolutely not fine. But here’s the gentle truth: staying defensive keeps you stuck. Learning sets you free. Let’s talk about how. First, let’s normalize being defensive. It doesn’t mean…